Watch your friends...

You know that time old saying...
The one that goes ..KEEP YOUR FRIENDS CLOSE AND YOUR ENEMIES CLOSER
I think the person who said it might have gotten it wrong...
In all fairness to the person who said it ...they were semi right..
You should keep your enemies close so that you can pin point there next move and you can be prepared for it.
But in this new day and age when the term "frenemy" is used ever so frequently, it kind of makes you wonder how close you should really keep your friends.

It's really messed up, but I've noticed over the last couple of years that many of my so called "friends" have done more damage to me than my enemies.
The people that I trusted more than anything, and I would tell all my secrets to betrayed me.
Well..that might just be the problem..
How much do we tell our best friends or our good friends..
Sometimes we tell our friends so much more than we should thinking that they have our best interest at heart..which a "True" friend should.
But nowadays..It's really hard to find a "True Friend" and the people walking around pretending to be our friends really have hidden agendas.
 I can't tell you the amount of times I've been sad or had a bad break up and I told a "friend" and 2 weeks later I would hear the same exact thing I said coming from someone else. But ,my "friend" would still have the nerve to smile in my face and act like she never said anything about me.
The crazy thing about an enemy is that you KNOW that they don't like you..
You wouldn't sit down to lunch with your enemy or have a slumber party with them and discuss your whole life ,from what guy your sleeping with or how much you get paid at work.
MAYBE we should start applying that same caution that we have with our enemies to our friendships.
Now, I'm not saying to shut out people who care for you, because there are those friends who love you and want to see nothing but good for you.
But for people who your not so sure about or you think they might have a hidden agenda..or someone your just getting close to..
You should only tell them things that you wouldn't mind someone else knowing, and that way..if it happens to come back to you it's not a devastating blow to your self esteem and you know exactly who to keep your business from...
Just a thought..maybe it should be "Watch Your Enemies Closely , But Watch your Friends Even Closer"

Peace and Love
Benji-Wilson