Sometimes I wonder what gives people the right to talk about others.
Who the hell ever asked them anything. So many insecure people go around making others feel small so they can make themselves feel better.
The amount of people that meet you and want to tell you how you should dress, or speak , or what person you should try and become and then behind your back and run your name into th ground anyway.
No one EVER asked their opinion.!!
We all have our own lives to live , Whether People like it or not shouldnt matter.
NO ONE IS PERFECT ... So for people to try and act holier than thou and gossip about others for 99 % of the day is just wrong.
There was a time when I took EVERYTHING EVERYONE SAID into serious consideration.
When people said I needed to change my attitude or that i needed to grow up Or i Needed to stop Beliveing in love or happiness, I really did.
All that did was make me even more unhappy because i was trying to please others instead of trying to make myself happy.
LET NO ONE BRING YOU DOWN
Whether it be with their words or whatever else they try and throw at you.
Being different is what makes the world go round.
If the people around you now talk about you because they cant accept you as you are Then you need to find people who will.
Trust me, Unless you are some crazed psycho (Which i hope your not :S)
Lol...you can always find people who will love you for you, Real Friends, Not the pretend ones who live to hurt you.
People who talk , Just have nothing better to to do with their time But you can always find something better to do with yours.
Be the bigger person, Just leave them be.
Peace And Love
Benji~Wilson
Friday, December 18, 2009
F.A.U.L.T
PEOPLE WILL NEVER STOP TALKING!
I know you cant shut the world up , it would stupid for me to try.
But Im not going to hide either .
But, I will keep them from know more than they need To know. I will use FAULT...
Its something Icame up with a while ago that i never thought would actually work.... I broke the letters down so that each letter meant something
LOOK...
F- Forgive yourself when you do something you regret
A- Accept that everyone makes mistakes and No one should punish you for them
U- Use your common sense to see when people around you are going to become a problem ,i.e Telling everyone and their mother about what you did the night before
L- Lose those people , They are no good for you and probably won't change..A zebra cant lose his stripes
T- Trust No one 100%...No one is perfect and you never know what someones intentions really are until they do it. You don't want to be on the recieving end of that.
It's Not always going to be perfect but If you do follow through with it there is wayyyy less chance of a person getting a hold of your business and making you feel shame that you could've prevented.
Peace and Love
Benji~Wilson
I know you cant shut the world up , it would stupid for me to try.
But Im not going to hide either .
But, I will keep them from know more than they need To know. I will use FAULT...
Its something Icame up with a while ago that i never thought would actually work.... I broke the letters down so that each letter meant something
LOOK...
F- Forgive yourself when you do something you regret
A- Accept that everyone makes mistakes and No one should punish you for them
U- Use your common sense to see when people around you are going to become a problem ,i.e Telling everyone and their mother about what you did the night before
L- Lose those people , They are no good for you and probably won't change..A zebra cant lose his stripes
T- Trust No one 100%...No one is perfect and you never know what someones intentions really are until they do it. You don't want to be on the recieving end of that.
It's Not always going to be perfect but If you do follow through with it there is wayyyy less chance of a person getting a hold of your business and making you feel shame that you could've prevented.
Peace and Love
Benji~Wilson
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
LEARN TO SEPARATE THE REAL FRIENDS FROM THE FAKE FRIENDS!
In our lives we have people who are only there to bring us down.
The ones who spend the most time with us, The ones who constantly want to know our business so they can "Help" us....Those are the ones we have to watch the most.
People Sometimes get a kick out of hurting others. They Get their laughs seeing someone around them suffer by their hand.
We sit back alot of the time and let people walk all over us and hurt us. We tell people our most intimate secrets off the strength of them being our "friends", hoping that they would never hurt us.
I have had people put me in bad positions many times because I gave them too much information about myself. I trusted them and felt that they loved me and only cared about my best interest and my well being.
I would feel BETRAYED AND DISSAPOINTED when they did me wrong.
The truth is PEOPLE DONT REALLY CARE WHAT THEY DO TO YOU. The quicker we come to realize that , The better.
People generally care about themselves. When it comes to others some people will jump at the opportunity to better themselves while hurting us in the process.
of course there may be select people in our lives who do care and are genuinely good at heart, but everyone isnt that way. You cant trust everyone with your secrets hoping that they will protect them with their life as you would do for them.
Its a gamble. Everytime we meet someone new and we become close to them , it is a gamble to see if you can trust them or not.
One thing i have learned is that your secrets, especially the deep dark ones should remain with you and the people taht the secret involves.
No one who wasnt involved in that situation should become involved.
It only makes it harder for you when it comes to crunch and people all of a sudden know things about you that they shouldnt know all because of the mouth of a person who shouldnt HAVE EVER been told.
We need to weed out the people in our lives who need to be there and the ones who are only good for going shopping and eating lunch with.
The sooner we realize that certain people only need to be around for a season is the sooner we can start to breathe easier about people using us and talking about us behind our back.
The smaller we keep our circle of trust is the better for us, because we will know exactly who knows what and who told what.
Peace and Love
Benji~Wilson
The ones who spend the most time with us, The ones who constantly want to know our business so they can "Help" us....Those are the ones we have to watch the most.
People Sometimes get a kick out of hurting others. They Get their laughs seeing someone around them suffer by their hand.
We sit back alot of the time and let people walk all over us and hurt us. We tell people our most intimate secrets off the strength of them being our "friends", hoping that they would never hurt us.
I have had people put me in bad positions many times because I gave them too much information about myself. I trusted them and felt that they loved me and only cared about my best interest and my well being.
I would feel BETRAYED AND DISSAPOINTED when they did me wrong.
The truth is PEOPLE DONT REALLY CARE WHAT THEY DO TO YOU. The quicker we come to realize that , The better.
People generally care about themselves. When it comes to others some people will jump at the opportunity to better themselves while hurting us in the process.
of course there may be select people in our lives who do care and are genuinely good at heart, but everyone isnt that way. You cant trust everyone with your secrets hoping that they will protect them with their life as you would do for them.
Its a gamble. Everytime we meet someone new and we become close to them , it is a gamble to see if you can trust them or not.
One thing i have learned is that your secrets, especially the deep dark ones should remain with you and the people taht the secret involves.
No one who wasnt involved in that situation should become involved.
It only makes it harder for you when it comes to crunch and people all of a sudden know things about you that they shouldnt know all because of the mouth of a person who shouldnt HAVE EVER been told.
We need to weed out the people in our lives who need to be there and the ones who are only good for going shopping and eating lunch with.
The sooner we realize that certain people only need to be around for a season is the sooner we can start to breathe easier about people using us and talking about us behind our back.
The smaller we keep our circle of trust is the better for us, because we will know exactly who knows what and who told what.
Peace and Love
Benji~Wilson
Sunday, December 13, 2009
To further push a point....
I feel like this verse speaks so clearly..
I read it whenever I need positive reinforcement for something I don't Feel strongly about.
Whatever your religion is or even if you have none...this still speaks so loudly. ENJOY
1 Corinthians 13
Love
1If I speak in the tongues[a] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
Peace and Love
Benji~Wilson
I read it whenever I need positive reinforcement for something I don't Feel strongly about.
Whatever your religion is or even if you have none...this still speaks so loudly. ENJOY
1 Corinthians 13
Love
1If I speak in the tongues[a] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
Peace and Love
Benji~Wilson
BACK WITH A MISSION
Sorry that I have been gone for so long. So many things have happened in my life in the last few months. Of course most of the situations were centered around people gossiping. But, one situation was around someone I loved , but cannot be with.
When we are talked about, or we are unhappy or things do not go our way...we tend to lose sight of the bigger goal ahead and we only think about then and there.
I dont want to lose the strength to love and hope. I definitely do not want people to make me lose my faith in love and good people.
Sometimes people do things to hurt us, it might feel like it will hurt forever but it truly only hurts for a moment.
I am keeping my heart open so that love will always find its way in, and even though it feels like these things i hope for will never be mine...I have faith that eventually they will be.
Peace and Love
Benji~Wilson
When we are talked about, or we are unhappy or things do not go our way...we tend to lose sight of the bigger goal ahead and we only think about then and there.
I dont want to lose the strength to love and hope. I definitely do not want people to make me lose my faith in love and good people.
Sometimes people do things to hurt us, it might feel like it will hurt forever but it truly only hurts for a moment.
I am keeping my heart open so that love will always find its way in, and even though it feels like these things i hope for will never be mine...I have faith that eventually they will be.
Peace and Love
Benji~Wilson
Thursday, October 22, 2009
How Far Is Too Far?
Sometimes people may feel as if i am giving rumors way too much power.
In reality I just want people to realize that words hurt. Words can take a person who is normally so strong and break them down until they cry. They can take the most beautiful person and make them feel so ugly.
The hurtful thing is when people spread rumors that is exactly what they intend to do.
To mess with you, make you feel small and hurt you.
Am I giving someone to much power because I let their words affect me , or am I just being human and reacting to people constantly spreading lies.
Am I supposed to be super woman and pretend that I can hear anything people say about me and it doesnt bother me not one bit?
I know people will always talk and there is probably no way to ever make them stop, but should people feel guilty too?
Should people feel bad after running your name into the ground just for the sake of having a GOOD conversation or for a couple good laughs at lunch?
Most people dont know what its like to wake up in the morning and turn off your phone, afraid to log into facebook, or even to sign on into your msn, because your afraid everyone already knows something about you.
Your afraid everyone is talking about you and you cant bear to see it or hear it.
Are we really pushing people too far by just talking about them ?
Is it safe to say that PEOPLE have a hand in our mental well beings?
Is it time to stop?
Peace and Love
Benji Wilson
In reality I just want people to realize that words hurt. Words can take a person who is normally so strong and break them down until they cry. They can take the most beautiful person and make them feel so ugly.
The hurtful thing is when people spread rumors that is exactly what they intend to do.
To mess with you, make you feel small and hurt you.
Am I giving someone to much power because I let their words affect me , or am I just being human and reacting to people constantly spreading lies.
Am I supposed to be super woman and pretend that I can hear anything people say about me and it doesnt bother me not one bit?
I know people will always talk and there is probably no way to ever make them stop, but should people feel guilty too?
Should people feel bad after running your name into the ground just for the sake of having a GOOD conversation or for a couple good laughs at lunch?
Most people dont know what its like to wake up in the morning and turn off your phone, afraid to log into facebook, or even to sign on into your msn, because your afraid everyone already knows something about you.
Your afraid everyone is talking about you and you cant bear to see it or hear it.
Are we really pushing people too far by just talking about them ?
Is it safe to say that PEOPLE have a hand in our mental well beings?
Is it time to stop?
Peace and Love
Benji Wilson
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
MEN GOSSIP TOO!!???!!
GOOD MORNING ALL MY BEAUTIFUL BLOGGERS!!!!!
I woke up this morning only to be greeted by a bunch of men in my living room gossiping like women in a beauty shop.
So this thought came into my head....
Do men gossip just as much as women? When I first started writing this book I thought that rumors and gossip only started because of jealousy and things like that but obviously there is a little bit more to it than that.
When I see a group of men sitting down laughing and talking about things they've heard about women , or women they have been with or a fellow group member who is "being punked" by his girlfriend, I must think..is everyone gossiping.
Is it not only childish but also just plain out lame for guys to do it too?
Most of our friends are sometimes married or in relationships...normally when we tell our friends something they tell their husbands or boyfriends. But now that men are doing the same thing women do is it ok to even do that...how do we know that a group of guys are not sitting down and talking about the same things we told our girlfriends the day before?\
Let me know
Peace and Love
Benji-Wilson
I woke up this morning only to be greeted by a bunch of men in my living room gossiping like women in a beauty shop.
So this thought came into my head....
Do men gossip just as much as women? When I first started writing this book I thought that rumors and gossip only started because of jealousy and things like that but obviously there is a little bit more to it than that.
When I see a group of men sitting down laughing and talking about things they've heard about women , or women they have been with or a fellow group member who is "being punked" by his girlfriend, I must think..is everyone gossiping.
Is it not only childish but also just plain out lame for guys to do it too?
Most of our friends are sometimes married or in relationships...normally when we tell our friends something they tell their husbands or boyfriends. But now that men are doing the same thing women do is it ok to even do that...how do we know that a group of guys are not sitting down and talking about the same things we told our girlfriends the day before?\
Let me know
Peace and Love
Benji-Wilson
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